Thursday, April 09, 2009

RespectFully YoUrS :

This may strike many as wierd [me] but I’m not one of those people who respect people by default. Meaning that you will not be worthy of respect just because you were :

- born before me.[even like...decades before me.]

-or after me.

-are rich



-well “qualified”

-run your own company

-are my employer

-are a relative

-or of the law

-own a coffee shop or are a barista [I'm talking business.]

you get the general drift…

when I was a child, my mom used to tell me, [no, yell at me] to respect my elders…and I’d always ask…”why?”…I mean…look at them…

they are rude to people considered menial [the usual...autowalas.kaamwalis,karabiwaleee...]

they are rude to their employees

they would rather gamble away their money than give it to charity [I'm big on charities].

they don’t take children seriously.

Hell they often don’t take their own spouses seriously.

they say one thing and mean another.

they commit aldultery.

they are hypocrites.

they chew with their mouths open.

they interrupt you when your talking or in mid sentence.

they lie blatantly [about children's marks, qualifications and etc.]

they are arrogant.

they think just because they are good looking they are “it” and everyone elses “shit” .

they don’t apologize for causing someone else hurt, pain or their tears to flow.

they don’t give a rats puny arse about the poor and needy .

they are judgemental despite their ignorance and they don’t even want to understand…the truth.

they are often unkind.

without compassion.

I’m sorry my disdain shows on my face mom…but they’ve done nothing worth respecting. Sure they go and work hard, but they’re not alone in doing so. Thats not enough. Respect is a HuGe thing, you have to earn it. No child respects by default… You had no role to play in being born before me, that was all your parents doing…why would i respect you for that? Be a good human being. That alone is worthy of respect.

8 lost souls found themselves in my mirror....:

Indian Home Maker said...

I agree. respect has to be earned. And how we treat children, menial workers, those who we can get away with being rude to shows our true colours.
I loved this post. I feel the same way, while I will not be rude, I cannot be made to feel respect for somebody who has done everything not to deserve it.
I guess I probably will be courteous unless they have been discourteous too.

coffeeismypoison said...

YAY! Someone besides family n BF sees my point of view in this matter! Good to know...And you can teach ur kids the same smart and polite thing!

ARUNA said...

hey this post is too good esp the cartoon! Truly respect cannot be bought, it has to be earned!

coffeeismypoison said...

@Aruna : Thanks! most of my posts are like that...argumentative and questioning n with a cartoon...!
but try telling that to adults...abt the respect thing.

ruSh.Me said...

Yup...!! I agree... Not in my present office, but in my earlier ones, people would treat peons and maids like they are of least consequence to this earth.. And when I would wish either of them 'Good Morning' or 'Thank You' or 'Please'.. they would react that as if I have committed the 8th Cardinal Sin and I shall rot in hell thereof..!!

I had this bad habit of calling my ex-boss, 'Sir'..which thankfully, my b.f. help me get rid of... :D

coffeeismypoison said... : I know that feeling. ppl in delhi who know me think im mad. except for the bf... the rest of them r quite blatant in their expresssion of my politeness insanity. lol. but...if the whole of delhi is being still doesn't make it right.

Sujoy Bhattacharjee said...

Hmmm...wise words.
Makes me remember we had a column in our report cards at school which said "Respect for authority" (needless to say the best I ever managed was a B).
Your post just exposes the absurdity of it all.

coffeeismypoison said...

@Sujoy : I know what u mean about the report cards...went thru that too. Was a big rebel. still am in some ways, but elder aren't always wrong :) its just that when they are wrong...they never admit it.