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Tuesday, March 09, 2010

For Men.


I'm utterly sick of the whole Women's day hullaballoo...all those lines about them having to undertake multiple roles, leading stressful lives, yadayadayada.

No one seems to make such a fuss over men. Instead they're cursed to the ends of the earth. It's a rare person or woman that stands up for them.

Seriously thought, Men don't have it that easy. Imagine their lives. From the time they're kids, the weight of parent's expectations are upon their head...in a more vocal manner than for girls. "Budhapey ka sahara" and all that. No one really expects that from a girl child, which, while somewhat insulting, is also oddly liberating. I mean, we'll do everything for our folks...but no one really expects it. In that sense, we're free.

And all this talk about women having to play different roles in society, in their lives, in the lives of others... makes me nauseous. We so martyr ourselves.

A Woman is a wife, a mother, a daughter, a daughter in law, a sister, a career person and so on ad infinitum...

Really one could counter that A Man is a husband, a son, a son in law, a co-bread winner [or not]...we forget family chauffeur, person to vent out feelings at, person getting stuck in the mom in law and daughter in law [saas, bahu, nanad] wars...the person with a million expectations on his head be it from his parents or his wife or his children...

So women have to shift families. But how many women give their husbands an easy time over that? Who gives them a break from their mother's rising insecurities about her position in her household?

Men are gentle too. They help too. Maybe they don't always cook dinner and maybe they kick up a fuss if somethings not cooked just right, but they get the groceries, they get the gas cylinder, they sometimes see their wife is tired and make her tea!

Maybe women spend more time with the kids. But men spend as much as they can too. When they're not running around doing bank work, paying bills, getting water, servicing the car...

When have we EVER let a man feel adequate???

Well this post is for them. You go...er...guys!

11 lost souls found themselves in my mirror....:

The Bald Guy said...

OMG! I love you! Thanks! Thanks! Thanks!

Me said...

Bang on!!Exactly my thoughts,give the poor men a break and why such a fuss about Women's Day too,it's just one day and then things are back to where they were.

We are fortunate enough to be born and brought up in societies where discrimination at large doesn't loom that badly,how does all this show of women's day help the not-so-lucky ones?

I so agree with the point how they are pressurised with that load of family resposibility and while women are contributing and helping their male counterparts,it is not so much as expected from them which does lessen the burden.

PS:Been reading your blog for sometime,I somehow found it while browsing through old topics in RxPG.May I ask what are you doing now?
Good read :)

Sameera said...

Yeah.. in a way I agree.. everybody has their own share of problems..!

indianhomemaker said...

Men do have a special day too, it's called International Men's Day, take a look here,


http://indianhomemaker.wordpress.com/2009/11/19/international-mens-day/


On Karvachauth, Bhaidooj, Raksha Bandhan, Vat Savitri, Kua Poojan etc women fast for or pray for long lives and good health of men in their families :)

Shruti said...

I completely agree with you! Me work really hard!

:: Pearly :: said...

ahhhhh finally SOMEBODY! ...

loved what you wrote... couldnt agree more.. i hate it when women talk as if they are the nazuk kalis and men are supposed to be macho n do all stuff... other times we speak about gender discrimination !!!



my recent post is also about men... things i like in them :) ...
take a look i'm sure you'd like it...

touch said...

旁觀自己的悲傷是解脫,主觀自己的悲傷是更加悲傷..................................................

Travelling Rants said...

really a nice quote :)
loved it..

彥宏 said...

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楊偉誠 said...

TAHNKS FOR YOUR SHARING~~~VERY NICE.................................................

CRD said...

Hey. Glad to get some fair talk from the fairer sex. Wish a lot more women read this.

Tell you what...I'm sharing your post link on Fb :)

Blogrolling you

Cheers
CRD

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