Disclaimer : Feminists needn't take this post too seriously.
Saw What women want[Mel Gibson, Helen Hunt] for the upteenth. I just let movies play in the background sometimes, just so it feels like I'm not alone at home.
So anyway, I wondered...What do women want really? So naturally compiled a list!
Not all of you may want this stuff but some of it, sometimes...I'm sure!
- A home, just ours.
- Flowers [always, for no reason!]
- Calorie free Junk food.
- Better nooky [thats right.]
- A better figure [slimmer/fuller as applicable].
- To be less hard on ourselves.
- Someone [not our parents] who loves us just the way we are.
- Someone who supports our career choices, even when we're unsure ourselves.
- Someone who's loyal no matter who challenges us.
- Help around the house.
- Appreciation for managing a career, a family and a home.
- Equal help in doing the same.
- Less pressure to be perfect. No pressure, more like it.
- A real friend. The kind who always has our back.
- No grey hair/signs of ageing.
- No body hair [apart from head whereupon it should be plentiful.]
- A partner whos nice, with a hint of spice!
- An expression of what they mean to people.
- Honesty.
- Sincerety.
- To not have to judge any and every person they interact with.
- To not be judged all the time.
- To not have messy family affairs thrust upon them.
- To have their kids realise their mom's love them more than anything in the world and only want whats best for them.
- No menstrual cycles, or menopause. They both suck.
- Spontaneity.
- The time to weave day dreams.
- Style.
- Clothes that look brilliant on us.
- Heels that cause no long or short term pains whatsoever.
- To be pampered, to be coddled and to not have to be tough all the time.
- To not care if the in laws treat one like their own daughter or not. We have our own parents you know.
- No pain during childbirth. C'mon women are alone there, other than the drugs, nothing helps really.
- Someone who loves us to notice when we're tired or headachy or PMSing or cranky and make us a hot cup of tea/coffee. without us saying a word. Yes...we do want mind readers.
- Actual confidence. [Pretending is one thing...]
- To drink and not have people raise their eyebrows.
- To have sex before marriage and not have our character and morals questioned.
- A good night's sleep. Without an alarm.
- To not have to haggle with every vendor possible.
- For our past not to matter.
- For our education to matter more than our skin tone. Our looks.
- For our kindness to matter more than our ability to flatter, manipulate and etc.
- hugs. Sponaneous ones!
- Chocolate.
- To have a star named after us.
- To be taken care of when we're sick. [Not by a nurse in a hospital.]
- To be able to focus when driving.
- To be able to show our weakness, our anger, our frustration, our grief.
- For every kiss to remind us of our first :) [ok I made that up, its just me.]
Among other things... :)
Saturday, October 24, 2009
What DO women want?
Thursday, April 09, 2009
RespectFully YoUrS :

This may strike many as wierd [me] but I’m not one of those people who respect people by default. Meaning that you will not be worthy of respect just because you were :
- born before me.[even like...decades before me.]
-or after me.
-are rich
-successful
-pedigreed
-well “qualified”
-run your own company
-are my employer…
-are a relative
-or of the law
-own a coffee shop or are a barista [I'm talking business.]
you get the general drift…
when I was a child, my mom used to tell me, [no, yell at me] to respect my elders…and I’d always ask…”why?”…I mean…look at them…
they are rude to people considered menial [the usual...autowalas.kaamwalis,karabiwaleee...]
they are rude to their employees
they would rather gamble away their money than give it to charity [I'm big on charities].
they don’t take children seriously.
Hell they often don’t take their own spouses seriously.
they say one thing and mean another.
they commit aldultery.
they are hypocrites.
they chew with their mouths open.
they interrupt you when your talking or in mid sentence.
they lie blatantly [about children's marks, qualifications and etc.]
they are arrogant.
they think just because they are good looking they are “it” and everyone elses “shit” .
they don’t apologize for causing someone else hurt, pain or their tears to flow.
they don’t give a rats puny arse about the poor and needy .
they are judgemental despite their ignorance and they don’t even want to understand…the truth.
they are often unkind.
without compassion.
I’m sorry my disdain shows on my face mom…but they’ve done nothing worth respecting. Sure they go and work hard, but they’re not alone in doing so. Thats not enough. Respect is a HuGe thing, you have to earn it. No child respects by default… You had no role to play in being born before me, that was all your parents doing…why would i respect you for that? Be a good human being. That alone is worthy of respect.
spun from dream-dust into a mirror by coffeeismypoison at 9.4.09 8 lost souls found themselves in my mirror....
Labels: compassion, elders, life, manners, mom, respect, trust, unkind